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There’s a perplexing debate buzzing online about where babies come from, and liberals are highlighting the fundamentally warped way they view human life and relationships.
Author Gabrielle Blair is making waves for her groundbreaking discovery that if men stopped ejaculating inside women, we would have fewer unwanted pregnancies and abortions (though Blair, herself a Mormon mother of six, believes “women that want or need an abortion should be able to get one whenever they want or need one”). In promoting her new book, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think about Abortion, Blair has been advocating for free vasectomies and for a “social campaign that talks about the reality of vasectomies.”
In an interview with Vogue, Blair has nothing positive to say about motherhood. She calls pregnancy “a burden” (what effect this must have on her children’s self-esteem — little home wreckers!). She also refers to sperm as “a dangerous bodily fluid that can cause pain, a lifetime of disruption, and even death for some.” Pregnancy prevention (birth control) is, for women, another “burden,” Blair writes. In an interview with NPR, she said she hopes to “prevent women from experiencing this very difficult thing” that is the first trimester of pregnancy.
“Our country, our society, we’re so focused on women’s bodies — on abortion, on regulating women, women, women, and totally ignoring this thing that would actually help, would actually work,” Blair said. “It’s so clear that the anti-abortion crowd doesn’t actually care… if someone has an abortion… They just want to control women.”
Blair never names who exactly is “controlling” women. But one thing’s for sure: unwanted pregnancies have nothing to do with a woman choosing to have sex. Heaven forbid Blair or any of the people adulating her consider controlling themselves. Or acknowledge and accept that indulging in pleasurable impulses sometimes (always?) involves risks and tradeoffs.
The obvious refusal to accept any whiff of personal responsibility is simply astounding. “Men cause all unwanted pregnancies,” Blair writes. According to her, pregnancy is usually “this very difficult thing that [women] didn’t choose to experience.” But sorry, assuming you weren’t forced to have sex, you knew going into it that pregnancy was a risk factor. To the modern world, celibacy is unthinkable, I know, but could it be that maybe, just maybe, self-control is the key to saving women from the corrosive and caustic effects of sperm?
Blair asserts that we should be telling men, “This is how you can engage responsibly. Hey, your sperm can cause serious problems for another person.” Does this sound like something an empowered woman participating in an intimate, adult interaction with a mature man should have to say? And should Blair and her female fan club really be engaging in risky behavior involving something they believe to be “dangerous” with a man who doesn’t know basic biology, or who isn’t willing or trusted to “ejaculate responsibly”? If you honestly think sperm is one step shy of nuclear radiation, wouldn’t you avoid the entire missile silo?
If Blair believes the only way to prevent pregnancy is to sterilize men, what are her standards for relationships? If you respect yourself, shouldn’t you only be sleeping with men who respect you enough to refrain from doing something that could “ruin” your life?
Blair brags that her own husband had a vasectomy. Again: why are you married to a person you don’t trust to ejaculate responsibly? This is akin to bragging that you adopted a cuddly grizzly bear, but don’t worry, you got the thing declawed! Ultimately, requiring vasectomies reflects poorly on you.
I get that growing a child inside you for nine months can be pretty brutal. But everyone I know who’s ever given birth always attests that it’s worth it (even my own mother!). It’s not likely that Mister Blair and those six Blair babies did anything to make their mother so miserable, but rather that the liberal habit of portraying motherhood and abstinence as passé and discriminatory (or something) has achieved its intended purpose. Mothering six children in an unsupportive world such as ours must certainly be challenging.
“Honestly, if you are an anti-abortion political candidate, your number one platform, if you were actually serious, should be free vasectomy for all,” said Blair. “And of course you’re not doing that.”
It appears Blair is confusing “pro-life” with “population control.” Pro-life people aren’t advocating for free vasectomies for all because we don’t view pregnancy as “a serious problem.” And if we did, we would be smart enough not to have sex with men who can’t or won’t control their ejaculations. Plus, as Michael Scott taught us, it isn’t as if a vasectomy is easily reversible.
Discouraging pregnancy and motherhood, dismissing both as “burdens,” and promoting more promiscuity by removing the man’s parental responsibility via vasectomy will not solve society’s problems. (If you can’t trust a man to “ejaculate responsibly,” why would you trust him if he claimed he had a vasectomy?) Yet even conservatives disregard the huge societal toll that comes with divorcing sex from parenthood. The Washington Examiner writes that Planned Parenthood’s free vasectomies are good “if men want to sleep around and have no intention of having children.” Such a mindset devalues the whole familial construct and encourages both parties to view the sexual act as a means to a pleasurable end and nothing more. It is, in essence, objectifying. And isn’t that just what feminism purports to abhor?
Sexual objectification is everywhere, and its consequences are devastating. The practice is “directly and indirectly linked to various mental health distresses and disorders in women, including anxiety, depression, disordered eating, and reduced experiences of flow and productivity.”
Science also shows that “having a large number of sexual partners has been linked to poor sexual health and decreased longevity” because promiscuous people are at a greater risk for sexual transmitted diseases, prostate, cervical, and oral cancers, as well as anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. Research also shows “fewer sex partners means a happier marriage,” and that practicing celibacy leads to lower stress levels and increased focus.
Placing the pregnancy onus on men is a platform you’d think all liberals would be on board with, but the Los Angeles Times declares that pro-abortionists are angry that men are being brought into the unwanted pregnancy conversation: “A nation of vasectomized men — did you envision this, antiabortion zealots?”
Obviously, abortion and sterilization are not the only options. Yet the Catholic “apprenticeship in self-mastery,” for example, is too much for most people, and Blair illustrates this perfectly when she makes sex, the most profound experience to be shared between two people, all about herself:
If… birth control goes away or abortion goes away, which it already has in many states, that is going to affect you. So step up. Men can easily stop abortion without touching an abortion law, or even mentioning women, simply by ejaculating responsibly.
Sometimes the best way to “ejaculate responsibly” is not to ejaculate at all. Celibacy may not be likely to become mainstream anytime soon, but the least we can do is encourage men to love and respect women enough to view sex as a big deal with physical, emotional, and spiritual ramifications. Fostering a society that values life, loving relationships, and the family unit — like serial baby daddy Nick Cannon does! — and holding men responsible for the life they create, would be a much better step forward than encouraging no-strings-attached sex and its incalculable consequences.
